Braaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaas…

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The claims that bras are not healthful for women have been around for ages. Whether you subscribe or not, the points are compelling and worthy of, at least, thoughtful consideration. Personally, I go back and forth on this one — have for years now.

Upon first hearing about it, it makes sense; however, the “science” is not so firmly behind it. On the other foot, “science” has never been all that reliable when it comes to women’s issues — recall that menstrual issues were “in our heads,” and We were, of course, simply (or “simple”) “hysterical.” (Is there a word more sexist than “hysterical”?) Weaker and all.

I do not now, nor have I ever had my faith based in science; it is just as fallible as any other “opinion,” in my opinion ;) . Subject to continuous change. Yes. And it does, does it not?

I go with my experience first.  “Guts” maybe or “intution” is a far more reliable barometer for me. Which does not in any way negate someone else’s experience and truth, even as it is in direct contrast or opposition to my own.

So all this to say, I do believe there is something unhealthful about bras — and certainly, ill-fitting, poorly designed bras. Still, we are conditioned to them, yes? I mean, not just in terms of society and what’s “appropriate”; but, really, to comfort. I hate to say it, but there is a measure of comfort to wearing them; as there is to not :) .

I imagine this comfort is more than physical, though; and perhaps borne of conditioning for acceptance, socially and culturally. Too bad, really; I hate being the product of such. But, there it is.

So far as the charges about bras suffocating the lymph nodes, I interpret this as a feeling I get occasionally of mild anxiety: it translates into me feeling like “I ‘must’ get this bra off, now,” and gives a mental/emotional feeling of being sufffocated/smothered — very uncomfortable. As well, the feeling is physical — one of confinement and suffocation, as if in a straightjacket (not that bad, of course, but you get me, right?) This happens a bit more often now than it did in my 20’s; however, it’s not something chronic. Both those sensations together produce an anxiousness unlike any other in my experience. Not sure I’m making sense, here — anyone relate?

Lately, I’ve taken to not wearing a bra much at all at home — and, in fact, out as well (for shame! Never would I have done this when a foolish “child” :) ) In the past, I never-ever-ever went the day braless! Only to sleep, really. Oh, lordy, I recall my mother wearing a sleeping bra, haha. Product of the ’50’s, for sure, was/is Ma :D . On the other foot, I see the value in such bras: one, they are generally not confining or uncomfortable; two, they can keep things within a safe area :) ; three, for large-breasted women, they can offer great relief. My mother falls into the last category, as well as being a proper 1950’s product :) . I can relate to bras and comfort on this level: I also do not liking bouncing around and falling out of clothes; so wearing a bra is not completely a “bad” concept, to me.

Still, I am feeling increasingly more comfortable without than with — is this just “getting older”? Hmmm. Or, perhaps, generally “becoming more comfortable with my body”? That’s a possibility, as I’ve experienced that growth in stages — exercise, for example shot me to a new level of body consciousness AND confidence — oh.Yeah. CONFIDENCE. Is there anything more wonderful than climbing the ladder of confidence? :D Not sure the bra/braless thang is confidence, though…haha.

I read once that wearing a bra — in contrast to what they are supposed to do — serves to promote, not just poor breast health, but also sagging. Sounded strange, but, the explanation was something about the tightening and un-naturally “lifting,” “separating,” and general manipulating into un-natural positions, etc., and then releasing, which is much more of a jarring to the tissues than going all day on regular errands and daily life without one. Interesting. Can’t recall where I read that. I’m sure it’s online somewhere.

For the past several years, now, I have been wearing exclusively NON-wire bras — seriously, it must have been a misogynist who designed the oh-so-fabulous “underwire bras” we so desperately need (male or female, doesn’t matter, they hated Womyn!) They are truly objects of torture. Now, I have no problemo believing THOSE are bad for health.

Some claims go so far as to state a correlation with breast cancers. To be honest, it’s not within the realm of UNreason to think so. I certainly would not be surprised one iota if they contribute.

One bra (pic above) I like right now is this one. I have a few :) . No wires. I’m not into too-too much “support” bras as that indicates confinement and too much squishy-squish. (In f act, I LOVE Barely There under garments, in general; the under pants they offer are so comfortable, when I shop for them, I end up bringing home a huge bagful. I’ve got, I think, all styles!) I like being held in place but not armor! I save the armor for running (best *ever* running bra) ;)

So, of course, I will always wear a bra for running! Not sure it actually goes to health, though; but it certainly appeals to my sense of aesthetics — so, yes, I am a product of, a slave, even ;) to, yes, SOME culturally imposed norms, to my chagrin, though it may be. So slap me ;)

Like I said, I could talk bra for ever, :D Any thoughts to share?

Strix

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Looks Can Be Deceiving…

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OR, How to pick a proper pineapple, pleasing, pretty, perfectly prickly  per prudent people’s passion for produce. dancing_pineapple2

Firstly, I disregard looks. The above doesn’t look too yummy or eye-catching; however, other indications tell a different story.

Fragrance.

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I always smell my fruit! Well, most fruit. Pineapple should smell so good you can taste it. If it has a musty smell or funny edge to the smell, it’s most likely fermenting already, having been picked too long ago. Take a whiff at the bottom of the pineapple; not the top or sides. It should smell fresh.

The bottom:

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The yellowing on the bottom sides is a good sign; the mold on the core is not! However, this is not a rotten pineapple! There is not a lot of mold. It has been sitting too long, sure; but the other signs are good, so it’s not enough to reject it.

The top:

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Again, not too attractive! The center leaves aren’t too bad. One test that hasn’t failed me yet is the pulling method: If you can very easily pull the very center leaves from the ‘napple, it’s bank. There should be little to no resistance. That’s an indication it was picked while ripe. The above is an older pineapple; but it may have been refrigerated and that’s why it’s still fresh inside. But being able to pull easily is not the sole indication of an optimal pineapple; so a rotten one can have easy to pull leaves, for example.

Weight: Most fruits are best picked with this in mind — melons and citrus, especially. If they are heavy, they contain lots of juice. So heavy = good.

Mold and Spotting: Obviously, mold is not good; however, the other signs on the above pineapple were. Had it soft spots, which is a deal breaker, or other signs of rotting, or mold on the body, I’d have rejected it. If it is soft and you can press into it with a little squeeze, it’s not good.

Color: Color is no indication of ripeness! It seems, looking at that pineapple, it was picked while not yet ripened, then started to rot –not true.  A pineapple can be utterly delicious and perfect and solid green! I’ve purchased gorgeous golden pineapples with fresh green leaves and they were so sour, they were inedible!
Hmph. And not a peppy pineapple picker was I, let me tell you …for the price of pineapples produces pernicious pickers prompt to purloin!

Size: Doesn’t matter. Big or small, they can vary in taste.

This pineapple needs to be refrigerated, ASAP. Pineapples do not ripen after being harvested; they should have been ripe when picked.  You can leave out a ripe one a few days and it will be fine; but use, fridge, or freeze it soon.

But, it’s all a mystery until you get it home…

Slice it and…

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Ahhhh………

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Lots of things don’t look so great on the outside…but isn’t it what’s inside that matters? ;)

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Strix

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Time For Another Round of “What Is It?”…

Okay, so there wasn’t an official other “round,” but it was sorta.

So here’s another alien-like thing-a-ma-bob….

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Okay, now don’t be frightened.

Her profile is quite snazzy….

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Booty shot, Mm Hm…

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Mr. DeMille…she’s quite ready….

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Okay, now the clues are appearing …

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Yes, yes, but what kind?

Hmmmm…..

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Any idears yet?

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C’mon, you know your veggies!

Okay, okay, I know you’re just DYing to know…

From that little alien, births….

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You got it now :D

Ahhh…behold the beauty of….

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Pea Sprouts :D Power-PACKED Nutrition — wow, 25% protein, too!

Get some today!

Poxacuatl
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Truly Magical Night…

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Moon and Venus (with clouds) February 27, 2009

Photo by Gene Spesard, Distraction Limited

I gazed upon this gorgeous site last night as I casually peered out to the sky. I was so surprised and instantly felt mesmerized and drawn to the glow. It was picturesque, almost unreal looking, breathtaking beauty; a bit of child-like wonder; and a touch of romance …  I got lost in wonderment. Makes you kind of believe in magic, love, and all that other stuff  sort of lost in the day to day grind :)

Strix

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Fear. And Success…

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Fear of Success

When I first heard that there are some people who actually fear “success,” in whatever their definition happens to be — such as in a career, a relationship, and for many, fear of weightloss — I was stunned! It was confusing to my pre-teenaged self to relate to; however, I did intellectually understand it after reading and hearing more about it. I think it was one of those old Oprah shows, haha. Anyway, as I got older I heard about it more and more, but still couldn’t relate to it…

There is a woman who worked with my father and was his friend for several years. She was obese and a classic case of this fear. She was beyond intelligent — my father considered her genius. I so admired her intellect…it was her self-sabotage in different areas of her life I couldn’t comprehend… But, eventually, I did learn and come to understand her better.

So, I’ve come to realize there has been at least one time I feared of success. It was as a child. It had to do with not wanting to stand out so much in school (I’ll save you the ramble). It lasted for no longer than a couple weeks, I confess, but still…Anyway, I defy any cut throat banking fatcat to survive the unforgiving grammar school playground, complete with “mean girls,” status, and “cool kids”!

Anyway, as small as that experience may seem it was significant; and it allows me to have some empathy and a bit more understanding when I read or hear about it. I quickly realized it was foolish to do this, and thank God I have parents who always encouraged me to give 100% effort to whatever I was doing.

So many people go through an unfortunate side effect of losing weight — being successful. Tragic.  Others treat them poorly, whether it’s jealousy; resentment; seeing that person as a threat; or even seeing it as a “loss” of that person or who they think that person “used to be”… as if their self had changed…
As well, many who lose the weight, are, themselves, uncomfortable for various reasons, whether induced by external forces, or from within themselves – self-induced — “Maybe I don’t deserve to be thin? What do I do now that I’m healthy? What do I do now that I’m thin? People are looking at me now, what does this mean? Others are attracted to me suddenly…is this good or bad? Are people sincere? Do I feel exposed? I have nothing to hide me any longer. Now I have to be __ and I’m scared. Can I do it? Can my inside live up to my outside?”

I wonder how many people sabotage their “diets” or goals and, perhaps don’t know it’s fear-based. Or maybe they do know, and it’s a way to — protect themselves?
Maybe they like not reaching certain goals… because it’s easier, because it’s comforting/able, because it’s what they’re used to. What will they do when they no longer have weight to lean on?

What positive things can we do to deal with it? Maybe sharing will help others going through this. I could wax on — Y’All know I could :D — but I’d like to hear from others. Becoming healthy — not just thin, of course — should be a good, positive thing! We all know about fear of failure…what about success?

Strix

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When I Grow Up, I Want to be … Cloris Leachman…

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I mean, not necessarily her outrageousness lol. I think she’s FABULOUS! I think she’s beautiful and witty as hell as she’s always been. Doesn’t miss a beat. I’ve always loved her, and wished she was utilized more in films; but, with the rampant sexism AND ageism — the ageism *especially* toward women) it’s par for the course. I find the criticism of her on “Dancing with the Stars” VERY sexist and ageist, and, if there’s _anything_ that gets to me, it’s the “isms” — racism and sexism at the top.Photobucket

I think her run is near the end, however — with all the questioning, (read: SUGGESTING it, repeatedly so to make it happen, ala Rove & Co) about, “Will Cloris make it this week?!” “Is Cloris going to be voted off?” “Cloris is annoying everyone on the set,” “Are the other celebrities ‘tired’ of Cloris’s ‘antics’?” Etc., on and on…and the demeaning, shameful insults she endures from some of the judges, especially that Carrie Ann who is not so easy on the ears herself, is very disrespectful. And I find it abhorrent when they laugh at her instead of with her or at her comedic talent as they would someone younger.

I say GO, Cloris! GO ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF! And many, MANY more good years to come. rainbow banana

I wonder what her diet is like?!! She’s in great shape, and obviously exercises; but wonder if she’s anything close to ETL?? :D

I restrain myself from opinion here, ’cause, believe me, if I did post opinions, I’d NEVER get away from this computer! Okay, just a random, off-topic (okay, an opinion) entry onto a blog with no topic anyway ;)

Strix
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Hair Remover and a Bra…

Haha. Okay, just another quickie review of two products I LOVE: TheEmjoi Gently Silken Epilator and the Glamorise Strapless Bra.

I’ll start with the bra:


It’s summertime and going strapless is a given in L.A. It’s heating up and the bras are flying off. Personally, I’ve despised every strapless bra I’ve *ever* tried. Always soooo uncomfortable. And almost always with underwire — oh, don’t get me started on wired bras! Who was the misogynist who fangled those instruments of feminine torture?! And the poking…Ugh! Those wires hurt. Rib-rubbing wires — does that sound like a comfy way to spend the day in the California sun? Not fun. Back to Glamorise — this is one of the most comfy bras. It does not squish or cut off circulation; it requires no wire — AND it holds! I was shocked, actually. When I first got it (ordered it online), I expected it to be one of those types where you’re constantly having to adjust and pull it up…may as well be smacking some chewing gum wearing daisy dukes while at it, right? So classy… :D

Anyway, you won’t have to suffer with the “tube-boob” look either. I like the lace top part; if your top is lower cut, the bit of lace showing through looks nice. It’s also inexpensive: JC Penny has it for $15; I think I’ll get them from in-store next time.

I’ve also tried a stick on silicone-type, which did not hold for me (didn’t stick well) and was uncomfortable; however, that one looks like a better one. Then there are the paper adhesives which I used when in high school, haha. Not ideal, but do work if needed (do not lift and hold; mostly for coverage); and there are nipple covers, which I haven’t tried, but seem pretty much the same deal.  While I’m at it, fashion tape is a Summer must! Great for dress-up time too ;) .

Okay, so Glamorise Strapless — Bigthumbs up big

Onward to the Emjoi. I had this for over a year before I even used it — I kid you not. Why? I don’t know. It seemed like a hassle for some reason…at the time, anyway. I think because it had to be charged for some time first (I know, I know, what’s the big deal?) But that was just silly! As I stripped, pulled, rubbed (do NOT even waste your $ — at least for the face), and sugared my body raw instead. Ack! I could have been plucking and done in minutes with this thing-a-ma-jiggy! Only a light pinching sensation; no biggie. It does get at the root and lasts. That’s a big deal because having to deal with shaving, plucking, waxing or whatever, often, is a pain in the follicle. Again, only minutes till you’re ready to go. Love this! Anotherthumbs up big

I just realized I could ramble on and on about bras; but since no one is reading this, who cares? :D

Pox_

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